It’s okay to have kids, it is also okay to choose not to have kids. However, both sides of the issue are complex and Being Childfree is here to explore both sides of the issue.
Choosing to be childfree is more than not having kids right now. It is a deliberate choice to not create or bring up any kids. The childfree choice is more than a simple yes or no. It’s certainly not something to be taken lightly. Being childless by choice is about wanting to devote time to other objectives. It is about focusing on your career, exploring your hobbies, learning about the world, or helping the people already on this earth.
Choosing to not have kids isn’t a simple decision. For most in the childfree community, people have given much more thought about why they don’t want kids than their counterparts have given thought about why they did choose to have children.
Don’t have kids if you don’t want them. People will tell you that you will change your mind as you grow up. They will tell you that you’re selfish and that it is a biological instinct to have children. But don’t fall for it. Instead, you should trust your instinct. If you don’t want kids, don’t have them. Having kids isn’t a hobby. It is an incredibly difficult, expensive, painful, burdensome ordeal. If you can’t devote a minimum of 18 years and 9 months to being a parent for this child, then don’t have children.
Choosing to not have kids isn’t easy. Your life will be very different from almost everyone else you know. Because you are choosing to not live a traditional life, you have to make your life your own. Childfree individuals face a lot of social stigma. Your family and friends will try to pressure you and convince you to have children constantly. If they can’t convince you, they will likely try to put you down for your choice. It may be more difficult to find friends as you get older, and it may be harder to find a spouse or long-term partner as more people your age begin to have children of their own.
Being childfree isn’t easy, but it is absolutely worth it. By choosing to not have children, you have the ability to spend more time with friends and loved ones. You can take care of your romantic relationships more, you can attain a higher education, and you will be able to further your career. You will have more time to travel, explore hobbies, stay active and keep learning. Best of all, you can focus your time on yourself. Many people have children before they have the time to understand who they are. When you have a child, you don’t have time to figure out who you really are and what you want out of life. When you bring a life into this world, you don’t have time to find what you believe in and why you have those beliefs.
If someone asks you who you are and what you do, you will have to be creative. You don’t get to say “I’m a mom” or I’m a father.” You have to be creative and say something that is way better than being a mom. But that will be okay because you’ve had plenty of time to know exactly who you are and where you fit. You don’t have to fall into a stereotype.
So Welcome to being childfree. To read more articles and issues associated with childfreedom, check out the blog section of this website. For a glossary for the childfree community, click here.
For more reading, check out this article about 10 childfree women here.
Let me know: Are you childfree? Do you have children? What are your thoughts?